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Changing behaviours and learning new skills may have seemed hard in the past but when you have a systemised way (NLP Training) that can guide you step by step it can be easy.
Change Number 1: Learning to control how you emotionally engage. Think about the times in the past when you have over reacted, notice how later on you can easily see other options, other ways you could have chosen to go if only you hadnt become negatively stimulated and emotionally driven! There will have been times, even things that are ongoing for you now where the options you are allowing yourself have built in self sustaining limitations holding you back, possibly driven by anxiety, lack of belief or maybe low self esteem.
Notice also all those times where you have gained a resolution on things and you can look back on them from a pragmatic point of view and it is easy now to see other positive options that could have been available to you back then, though at the time there seemed only two options a bad one or a really bad one.
State control is key to good decisions, a negative state will always limit you, break the state in what ever way you can, think of something funny, focus for a moment on something else even do star jumps if you want to and it works, but do notice when you create this emotional space, when you allow an emotional balance then your positive options will increase.
Change Number 2: Start by getting real! Reality is an illusion at the best of times, we want to learn to choose to see a reality that works for us. The way the human neurology works is that everything we experience is perception, we cant truly experience reality because reality is made up of significantly more data that we can process. We take raw data with no meaning and create it into something that can have a significant meaning.
Only NOW is real, and now is fleeting, every thing else, the past the future and all our options and possibilities exists only in our imaginations!
And it is our emotional associations both negative and positive that will play a big part in what we perceive to be possible now and into the future based mostly on what we believe to be true about the past.
What you must change is learning to take a moment, get some perspective on the experience without being in the experience, in your mind allow yourself to step out of it, to disengage any triggered emotion and allow a rational perception of the experience to guide any decisions you might make.
The final change that you will want to look to make is Change Number 3: Which for me is one of the most powerful changes, a true life skill. Learning to completely control the words that create the reality for yourself and any listener, actually think about and choose the words that best fit the message.
Words certainly do have meaning and that meaning will create an emotional response and that emotional response will influence a persons behaviour.
A pictures paints a thousand words, the thing is in communication it is our words that paint the picture. A word that may be positive or innocuous to you may trigger a powerful negative emotional response in someone else. Just because it means one thing to you do make the mistake of thinking it means that same thing to everyone else.
Choose your words wisely and they will get it, probably even enjoy it, choose your words carelessly and they will not get it and maybe even rail against it.
You have now learnt 3 powerful things about your communication and these powerful techniques come directly from NLP. You have learnt already that there are rules to follow that create a reality out of illusion. You have also learnt that there is a massive positive power that comes from controlling your state, only allowing yourself to use positive powerful states to drive your decisions. And of course finally you have learnt there is an innate power in how you choose to use your language. I hope that these insights have inspired you and brought you a clearer understanding of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner philosophies.